Issues about low self-esteem; Dealing with guilt from past sins; "I'm pregnant but we're not married. Is marriage the solution?"

In this episode:

"I'm Roman Catholic and my boyfriend is a follower of Islam.  Do you think this relationship is a good idea?"

"I'm a freshman in college.  There are a couple of guys who are courting me but I'm not ready for a relationship.  How do I tell them without hurting their feelings." 

"A friend of mine is really obsessed with this guy.  She even talks about committing suicide over him.  What should I do?"

"Love or Infatuation?"; "I like this girl but she doesn't seem to like me back. What can I do so she'll like me?"; "How do I know he/ she is right to be a boyfriend/ girlfriend?"

"Is it okay if I ask God for a sign if she's the one or not?"

"What is the right age to have a relationship?"

"A guy is bothering me and won't quit!"

"What a man loses in premarital sex." "What do I do with my very critical GF?" "My GF is a bit touchy and affectionate but I'm afraid I'll fall into temptation. How do I tell her without hurting her feelings?"

The dynamic duo is back together and we answer your questions:

"Can someone be best-friends and accountability partners after they've had a same sex relationship together?"

"If my boyfriend and I have started having sex already, what can we do?"

"Is it wrong that I lose interest with a girl I've been seeing for a few  weeks?"

In this episode:
*Review of the "Two Commandments."

*My friend says she's a Christian, but she's involved in a same-sex relationship.  She won't listen to me.  What should I do?

*I've been dating this girl but I don't think she's the one I want to marry.  Should I break up with her?

We get down to your questions: "Is it okay to pray for someone who already has a boyfriend and when do I stop praying for her?"; "Where can I meet quality guys other than my church?"; "Is dating a guy ten years younger than I am wrong...specially I'm a woman?"

Basta Lovelife Typhoon Ondoy Relief Operation Special

We talk about your questions: "I'm 19 but I'm falling someone who is 32. Is it right I start dating him?"; "Is it okay to text and call my ex and start a friendship?"; "Am I still a virgin even though I've had a same sex relationship?"

We talk about: "I'm only 16. Why am I attracted to older men 20 and above?"; "I'm a preacher's kid and my father told me that I should finish school first, get a job before I get into a relationship. But I am in love. What should I do?"; "I've been abused as a child. It's been a long time since that happened but I can't seem to move on. What should I do?"

In this episode we talk about: "I think my BF is cheating on me though I don't have proof, I still broke up with him. Did I do the right thing?"; "I'm falling for someone I work with in ministry but I'm not sure he feels the same way." and "My BF is not as passionate and committed about our relationship as I am."

We answer your emails and text questions: "My ex bf still tells me he loves me even though he's with someone else now"; "If two people are really in love with each other, why is it wrong for them to have sex?"; and "Until what age am I obligated to obey my parents?"

Erwin and I talk about your questions: "Is 22 years old too young to get married?"; "Is it okay to ask my BF when he's planning on marrying me?"; and "I'm falling for my cousin. Is this wrong?"

We talk about your emails and text questions: "When do I tell my BF or GF about my past (sexual sin)"; "How do I move on from a breakup?"; "My husband seems like he doesn't love me anymore. He's not sweet anymore and doesn't pay attention to me. What should I do?"

Topics include: "Lessons from Cory Aquino"; "Is it okay to have sex when we're engaged?"; "Is it a sin to have a relationship with a man who has been separated from his wife for ten years?"; and "Why do guys act like jerks when they like a girl."

We answer your questions: "How do I court a girl?"; "Tanan (or running away with your BF or GF)"; and "My brother has been hanging out with the gay crowd and he's acting like them. What should I do?"

Topics include: "My ex bf owes me money and he doesn't want to pay me back. What do I do?"; "My ex keeps on texting and calling me after I said not to. Is this stalking?" and "I like this girl at church but I don't have the strength to ask her out. Help me!"

We talk about your questions: "Regret that comes from sexual sin"; "I came from a broken home. Is that the reason whyI'm always looking for love from men?"; "My boyfriend always says he's busy and doesn't have time for me, but he has time for his friends. Should I break up with him?"

Erwin and I talk about: "Can I avoid arguing or fighting with my BF or GF and is it normal that we fight a lot?"; "My friend and I like the same guy/ girl (love triangle)" and "No easy way out!"

We talk about love and relationship issues: Two Timing; "Is it wrong that I think about my ex even though I'm with someone else now?" and "Complications of being best friends with the opposite sex."

In this episode, we talk about: "Can men and women become best friends or close friends or will there always be an issue of having romantic feelings between them?"; "Is flirting okay or is it bad?" and "If I say NO but I'm still forced to have sex, is that considered rape?"

Erwin and I talk about: "Sexting"; "Is it too soon for my ex BF to text me after he's hurt me?" and "Fear of commitment."

Erwin and I talk about the issue of homosexuality and sex same attraction

Erwin and I talk about: Purity; "Are Manga comics and anime bad?"; and "Controlling Boyfriends/ Girlfriends"

Erwin and I talk about current events: "Lessons learned from a sex video scandal" and Interracial Relationships

"Should I get back together with my ex?"
I give you some thoughts and advice on this question.

This is our "breaking up" episode. Erwin and I talk about our breakup stories, forgiving and trusting, and "should I be friends with my ex?"

Our Mother's Day special and Kevin's birthday bash! We talk about abortion, issues and consequences of unwanted pregnancies, and "what if I am in an unhappy relationship."

Erwin and I continue our discussion about break-ups and heartaches. We also talk about what the Bible says about pornography and masturbation.

Erwin and I talk about your email and text messages: "How do I move on after my boyfriend's death?" and "How to deal with break ups."

We talk about : " The Clueless and the Careless" and "Basted! Unreciprocated Love"

In this episode, Erwin and I have an awesome topic..."Dealing with the past." We talk about "Where do I stand with God?"; "How will my past afftect my future relationships?" and "When do I tell my girlfriend/ boyfriend about my past?"

In this episode, Erwin and I discuss: "Love at first sight?"; "How far can I go?" and "Do opposites attract?"

We talk about: "Long distance relationships: will it work?"; "I have feelings for two different women and both of them like me too. How do I choose?"; "Fear of failure."

We talk about "Is kissing crossing the line of purity?"; "What does waiting really mean?" and "A night with the band Delirious!"

Erwin and I go back to our inbox and answer your email questions such as: "My boyfriend gave me his email and friendster password. Should I snoop around?"; "My friends won't listen to me whenever I talk to them about purity." and "My boyfriend tells me he's lusting and having impure thoughts about me. Is it ok that he tells me these things?"

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Erwin and I talk about the book/movie "He's Just Not That Into You"

Erwin and I answer your emails: What should I do if we already had sex? How do I know he's interested in me and not just sex? Why are married men attracted to me?

We talk about the Two Commandments of Relationships and Learning the Hard Way: Same Sex Relationships.

Happy Valentines! In this episode we talk about Valentines Day and should Christians celebrate it. We also give you tips on how to survive as a single person on Valentines and interview people about Valentines Day.

Erwin and I answer more email questions as we get ready for Valentines Day. Opening segment: HIV and abortion.  Question/Answer: parents' objection; long distance relationship with a non-Christian.

We answer questions about women making the first move, "MU," and "he's 25 and I'm only 16."

We answer questions about women making the first move, "MU," and "he's 25 and I'm only 16."

Jan 22nd Episode (Smaller File Size; Faster Download).

Matthew 5: Lust, Love and my "Least Favorite" Bible Passage.  SMALLER FILE SIZE: LOWER QUALITY/FASTER DOWNLOAD

Erwin and I talk about "over-spiritualizing" issues regarding love and relationships.  This is Episode Four in lower quality/smaller file size for a faster download.

Party, party and party! Plus Seven Questions for the New Year.

Christmas Fun and Lessons from the Story of Joseph

Erwin and I continue talking about the confusing sources of advice and how to use good discernment.

We're back!  Episode Two Consists of 3 separate segments:

1). State of the Philippines: I give some statistics about teenage sexual behavior in the Philippines (note: stats came from the State of the Philippines Population Report)

2). Break-up Question: Erwin and I discuss a question regarding getting over a breakup.

3). Consider the Source: We begin a new discussion regarding the various sources of information and advice our youth are listening to.  We'll continue this discussion into Episode Three.

The Basta LoveLife radio show/podcast has begun!  In this first episode, I talk about a few steps you can take to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23). 

Basta LoveLife, Episode One will be on the air in a week!

John the Baptist: Profile of a Prophet.  I preached this message on Friday, October 3rd at Full Cup Cafe (Manila, Philippines).

Spiritual Frustration: This message is based on Psalm 42.  I recorded it on my 35th birthday. 

I originally preached this message at Full Cup Cafe.  It is about God's original plan for sexuality, based on the Genesis creation account.  The message is mostly English with a little bit of Tagalog mixed in.  NOTE: while this sermon contains no "explicit" material, it does deal with mature subject matter.  It is appropriate for teenagers, but not young children (preteens).